How to take charge of your wellbeing
Read about the author Megan Barnett
If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, then it’s time for a little self-evaluation. Stresses from everyday life can overspill into the personal, affecting your health, wellbeing, relationships and sex life. A complete emotional turn around may seem impossible, but small changes overtime can lead to big results!
Treat yourself
If you’re feeling down about your appearance or are being affected by life’s stresses, chances are you’re not going to be in the mood for sex. This can then make you feel worse because you’re not connecting with your partner on an intimate level and it may affect your confidence, creating a cycle that seemingly won’t stop.
If your sex life and relationship has diminished somewhat, chances are that you’re not going to be feeling your best. Sometimes in order to better our relationships, we need to be a little bit selfish first in order to make a long-lasting change. Before you set about sprucing up your sex play, take the time to give yourself some love.
Get pampered and treat yourself to all those little indulgences that perk you up, even if it’s something small like upgrading your morning black coffee to a flavoured latte. Once you’re on track to getting your mojo back, you’re more likely to feel ready to open up more with your partner vocally, physically and intimately.
Taking at least ten minutes for yourself to practice a little meditation can do wonders too. Focusing on your breathing can help to reduce any feelings of anxiety; it’s easy to get swept up in a fast-paced lifestyle, and so slowing things down can help you to relax.
Mix up the routine
We’re all creatures of habit. Busy work and social schedules can leave us feeling pretty lethargic during our free time, and it’s incredibly easy to let the TV schedule dictate your personal life. Instead of going through the motions, set aside time out of every day to spend some quality time with your partner.
Whether this alone time together is spent intimately or simply having some fun together, reigniting the spark in your relationship, it’s important to focus on each other. By making the effort to spend time together, you’ll soon realise how easily your repetitive routine can bog you down and affect your mood.
Say “Yes!” more
Thanks to the internet and social media, we have an almost instant access to magazines and newspapers. This unfortunately means that we are frequently bombarded with scaremongering headlines concerning our health and lifestyles.
As a result, we often stick to strict diets and routines; when we feel lethargic, we tend to say “No” to trying new things and use tiredness as an excuse.
However, getting the right balance and saying “Yes!” more can help in putting us on the path to happiness. Saying “Yes” to a biccie with your afternoon tea won’t hurt, nor will saying “Yes” to trying a new night class with a friend.
Moreover, finding a new lease of life may lead you to saying “Yes!” more to moments of intimacy with your partner too!
Open up
Even if there is just a minor problem, internalising an issue can eventually exacerbate things as often we only have one perspective on it. Getting things off your chest and talking through your concerns with your partner can help to lighten the load.
Sometimes opening up can be hard as it can put you in a vulnerable position, or you may be concerned that you will hurt your partner’s feelings. However, raising an issue as soon as possible is best as otherwise problems will escalate.
It’s important to voice your thoughts concerning all aspects of your relationship too, including your sex life. If you’re not having the sex you want, you need to tell your partner in order for it to change. Being honest and open are key aspects in boosting your sex life!
Be proactive about your sexual health
While many people find it hard discussing their personal issues with their GP, it really is important to take control of your sexual health. Being in pain or discomfort can affect our mood and general well-being, so being proactive and seeking help will give you an extra boost all round!
Seeking medical advice is especially important if health problems are affecting your sex life. Simple changes such as using a sexual lubricant is a great self-help treatment too. YES Organic lubricants are great for giving your sexual health and pleasure a boost as they are made from 100% skin safe, natural materials and can help to alleviate discomfort brought on by issues such as vaginal tightness and dryness.
Remember: happy sexual health and a happy sex life leads to a happy you!
Recharge your batteries
If your home and work life is getting in the way of your sex life, it’s time to take a break! Book a weekend away or even just a night in a hotel so that you can reconnect with your partner in peace. Enjoying the night alone together is a great way to reignite the passion in your relationship and explore each other in new ways.
Attending a couples’ spa day is also a great way to relax while spending some alone time together. Relationships work much better as a team, so it’s important that the both of you are happy and relaxed!
Turn up the heat between the sheets!
A recent OnePoll survey (2016) found that 20% of Brits found missionary style to be their favourite position for sex. If you fall into this category, then it’s time to shake things up! Why not read erotica or watch some light pornography with your partner to get some ideas? Also, try to be more open about what you want in bed, as discussing each other’s fantasies can lead to much better sex!
Introducing sex toys into the bedroom is also a great and fun way to enhance your sexual pleasure. Cock rings can be enjoyed by men and women alike as they enhance his erection, and some offer clitoral stimulation too, such as the vibrating Je Joue Mio.
The Screaming O Combo is another great product that is sure to put you in a good mood! Designed for clitoral stimulation and to enhance erections, the Smile is discreet enough to slip between the two of you during sex and includes a bullet vibrator, perfect for solo pelasure and couples play. You can slip the ABS plastic bullet into the very stretchy two-sided cock ring to enjoy vibrating enhancement with a partner, worn around just the penis or both penis and testicles, use the bullet in the finger sleeve to transform your fingertip into a powerful sex toy or just enjoy the bullet on its own.
When it comes to being happy, it’s important to cover all aspects of your personal life, including your health and relationship. Getting the right balance will mean smiles all round!