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Release Your Inner Dominatrix

Release Your Inner Dominatrix | Jo Divine

Have you ever fantasized about strutting around in sexy lingerie with your partner at your complete sexual mercy?

Experimenting with domination and submission during sex is fun. Most people either like to take charge or be taken control of in the bedroom, but it doesn’t always have to be the man who taking the lead. Many men love it when they are dominated by their partner and plenty of women get a huge thrill out of dominating their partner.

Read on to find out how to release the inner dominatrix within you and spice up your sex life as well as shock and surprise your partner at the same time.

Communication

Communication plays a huge role in domination and submission sex. Knowing what your partner likes and what need is essential to avoid any misunderstanding during sex. Before you begin, find out exactly what your partner really wants from dominant and submissive role play. Set a safe word for both of you before you begin, choosing a word that neither of you would use during sex. You will both know when to stop immediately when this word is spoken.

When you know exactly what your partner wants and what you are going to do to him, don’t let him make any contribution to what you are doing: you are in control, not him.

Do what I say

Only allow your partner to do what you tell him to do, from taking off his clothes to touching you, from going faster to slowing down. You can use creative dominant dirty talk but by just making your demands and telling your partner what to do can feel naughty too.

You could ban all talk from him and punish him with spanking if he disobeys you. If he does utter a sound, you can withhold any pleasurable sensations you are giving, this type of teasing is a great form of power play and will have him desperately wanting to beg you to continue.

Yes, Mistress

Letting your partner know that they are at your mercy can be a real turn on so make sure he knows that you are in charge and make him address you appropriately. Incorporate titles into your role play. Make him call you Mistress or Madam or any other suitable title. If your partner forgets to use your title, punish him by a quick spanking or get him to perform oral sex on you. He will be unlikely to forget in a hurry but will turn him on at the same time.

Tie me up, tie me down

By restraining your partner, you can turn them into your sex slave. Tying up your partner will instantly make them feel submissive and vulnerable which, in turn, will make you feel more powerful.

Invest in comfortable handcuffs, preferably with ties, not lock and key. Losing the key will swiftly kill the mood and is not conducive to kinky sex! You don’t even have to use handcuffs, anything that is restrictive will do the job just as well, so maybe use his tie, cling film or even your knickers, be as imaginative as you can. Release him if he wants to be untied: there is nothing more off putting than an unwilling sex slave.

Take your time with taunting him, gently touch him with feather like caresses or even use a feather tickler, lubricate his penis with a good lubricant and tease him to the point of ecstasy but don’t let him orgasm. You could just let him watch you strip and masturbate in front of him. Use a vibrator to show him what you like. Most men will adore having their own sex show performed by their partner. Being in charge can bring out the exhibitionist in you so show off your great assets. Performing in front of your partner may give him ideas of what you like when you release him and can lead to revelations about you or your partner you could never have imagined.

Try a vibrating cock ring on his penis: not only will it make him bigger for you to enjoy but it may make him feel less threatened by sex toys when he realises that you can both get so much pleasure out of a sex toy at the same time.

Deprive his senses

Use a soft but effective blindfold to heighten his senses as well as giving you the edge to really go to town with your taunting. Removing his sense of vision will mean he won’t see that ice cube or feather tickler coming or know what that restriction around his penis is, making him really hard. You can feed food to him, allowing it to trickle down his chin so you can kiss it off or get him to taste you from your fingers. Drip warm massage oil from a massage candle onto his chest and slowly rub it around his nipples to make them hard. Whisper what you are going to do, don’t let him talk or demand anything. Maximising all his other senses whilst being totally helpless will make the sex unlike anything you have ever had.

Control his orgasm

Having taken control of him physically, it is time to ramp up your experience. Control lies in your hands and that includes his orgasm. Experiment with sexual power by making him beg for permission to orgasm. Being a dominatrix is not about his pleasure but yours. Use his body to fulfil your needs and experience amazing orgasms.

However you tap into your inner dominatrix, submission and domination can bond couples in a different and sometimes even more exciting way than just sex. As you play out some of your fantasies, you may find yourself become closer to your partner. Hopefully he will have taken notice of what you did and use some of your skills and techniques to heighten both your sexual pleasure during intercourse next time as well as open up the pathway to new sexual adventures in the future.

 

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