Recently, especially since a the recent survey of penis sizes by King’s College London , I’ve read so many articles stating that big penises make sex bad. Well I, as a woman, want to state something controversial: My husband has a very large penis and I love it!
In fact more than that – as the spouse of the author of the Bathmate blog, I’ve been supportive of his use of the Bathmate pump, and I continue to enjoy his size gains.
I’d had a few sexual partners prior to meeting my husband, and I do remember thinking the first time we had sex that his penis was quite big, but it was the fact he knew how to make me orgasm by rubbing my clitoris that made him stand out – no one had ever done that before.
Many men obsess about their manhood, but my husband wasn’t one of them. He knew he was quite big, but that was it. Most men have no reason to worry about the size of their penis – the distribution of penis sizes is surprisingly small – and most women enjoy the girth of a penis rather than the length anyway. But most important it is what they do with their penis, along with other sex play that matters – a large penis used badly will not pleasure a woman.
But the nonsense often spouted that you can’t enjoy a man with a big penis needs to refuted – it just isn’t true that you need a bucket of lube and can only have sex in the missionary position.
So how big is big?
I didn’t consider my husband to have a very large penis until he started using the Bathmate pump for Jo Divine and we did some internet searches. We then found he was already in the top 1% for length and girth – which put a smile on his face!
But forget the nonsense of 10 inch penises mentioned in porn films, they barely exist – if they exist at all. My husband’s penis – after using the Bathmate for a few months – is now 20cm long (a shade under 8”) and has a girth of 17cm (6.7”) which means he is in the top 0.1% for both length and girth and rather eye-wateringly means the actual volume of his penis is twice the “average”.
So here’s why I love his penis
- I like looking at his penis, even when it is flaccid as it is quite long but I love it even more when erect as it look really good. I love massaging lubricant up and down the length of the shaft which feels so firm and thick in my hand. Giving him a blow job is good because he is so big so there is more to suck and lick. Good job I’ve got quite a big mouth! It’s a sexy sight, watching this in the mirror too.
- We always use lube but not a bucket load, just enough to make it feel really good. I tend to use YES organic water based as it is thinner and he uses the YES oil based lube on himself as it is creamier and lasts longer – this is one time when oil and water certainly do mix. We don’t have sex without lube as it makes it feel wonderful and helps us to go for longer.
- When he first enters me or I slide myself down over his erect penis it feels amazing. The sensation of being really stretched is not unpleasant but generally feels like my vagina is being filled completely. We always take our time over this, not a swift thrust which many men do, as we both enjoy the feeling so much and it wouldn’t be comfortable. Quite often, despite his size, I like to mount him without foreplay to enjoy that sensation being stretched – a good lube makes this easy and fun! It takes a few seconds to adjust to having such a full vagina and we have a few slow gentle thrusts before finding our stride and ramping up the speed.
- He loves seeing the expression on my face as he enters me, especially when I slowly slide myself down his large erection when I climb on top.
- Having a man with a large erection means I have more penis to slide up and down, enabling me to prolong the pleasurable sensations coursing through my body. I love doing this really slowly as it makes my vagina throb and I can be in control. I love the way it feels, massaging my g-spot as I rub my clit up and down its length at the same time, leading to an explosive orgasm. I love this position!
- I also love it when he takes me from behind, or rather on my side. This position makes him feel really deep inside me and I can use a clitoral vibrator on my clit or he can lube my clit and give it a good massaging. This is a great position to imagine other people watching you as I’m really exposed! We discovered our “snuggly” position when my bump got in the way towards the end of my first pregnancy and we still wanted sex! We’ve used it frequently even since.
- Having a huge penis makes him more confident too, especially since using the Bathmate pump. Using the Bathmate makes me feel that he cares about his sexual health and both his sexual pleasure and mine, it’s not just a vanity thing but that it actually has enhanced our sexual pleasure even more.
- I have more g-spot orgasms, in addition to feeling wetter – especially since he has been using the Bathmate pump . I’ve noticed his penis is firmer, longer and most definitely wider. The only time is can feel a bit uncomfortable is when he comes as his penis gets bigger and it is often when my vagina is tight after having had an orgasm!
Be proud of your penis!
The purpose of writing this is not to brag, rather to say you can have fun with any penis. Despite what some so-called experts will tell you, you can have fun with a big penis. You can also be a terrible lover if you have a big penis, if you think all you have to do is slam it in!
Learn to love your penis, look after it, use it and enjoy it. Whatever the size.