Why EVERYONE Should Try a Strapon

Why EVERYONE Should Try a Strapon

The strapon – the artificial, erect penis. The dildo, or vibrating dildo, that sits within a hip hugging harness. Often dismissed as a toy for lesbians, there is so much more versatile fun to be had from this creative little contraption. Here’s why absolutely everyone should try a strapon:

People without a penis

The first time you put on a strapon it is a unique experience. As a friend of mine said, when she borrowed mine, ‘I suddenly feel powerful’. It’s strangely true, unexpected and revelatory. You place this piece of phallic silicone and straps where it needs to be, and suddenly you want to strut around the house in it for no reason. You can’t feel it, it doesn’t respond to arousal or stimulus, and yet somehow you feel better with it on. In charge. In control. Ready to pose and with moxy you didn’t know you had. Why? Who knows?

In terms of using a strapon, it can be used on any gender identity. It transcends that. You suddenly have a new tool, a giver of pleasure, and power. You can penetrate man, woman or any other gender identity. You can tell your man to suck it, with him free from conflicting self-identity issues, because he does it for your enjoyment. You can take the dominant role, and pleasure him anally, with the same freedom from self-reflection.

You can penetrate your girlfriend (and though many women are not stimulated or dependent on penetration, some are, including some lesbians). You can use it in dominance roleplay. Suddenly, you have an invulnerable phallus, ready for action, free of needs and wants, ready to serve or be served at any moment.
Yes, you can’t feel it, but somehow it changes the dynamic.

You’ll also have the sudden realisation of how incredibly hard the penis-owner in a penetrative situation actually has to work and have a little empathy if they get exhausted or can’t ‘go for hours.

I remember bringing a strapon to a party, with my lovely friend/girlfriend, and while the men stood around, with their own biological members ready, they were not allowed to partake. They watched with an envy, lust and sudden loss of patriarchal power. What could be more arousing for us than that?

People with a penis

Even if you own a penis, a strapon is not something to ignore. There are strapons that can be worn to perform one-man DP, and also ones that encase the penis to make your pride and joy suddenly bigger, wider and invulnerable to a few too many drinks, premature ejaculation or any other cause of erectile dysfunction. Ever wondered what it would feel like to have the proportions of a porn star? Ever wondered if you’d pleasure your wife more if you were better endowed, or could go for longer, or multiple times? Now you can find out!

Yes, you won’t be able to really feel the motion in the same way, but this can be used as part of chastity play, or to make the experience all about your partner’s pleasure- an activity that too rarely happens for those who don’t have a penis! They are also unbreakably safe protection. If you plan to use it on more than one person, it’s a good idea to have different ones for different partners and use a condom to help keep them clean.

You can wear them over full head-to toe latex fetishwear if you wish, and if you remove it you won’t be exposed.

You can also have a strapon ready for playmates without a penis to use on you- knowing where it’s been and that it’s the size and shape you most enjoy.

Versatility

Getting a new way to use your favourite dildo or vibrator is always fun! You can attach it to a harness with a ring if it has a flared base or use a vacu-lock if it doesn’t. You can have different sizes to change, from the tiny ones for the shy, nervous recipient who wants to try something new, to monstrous ones for those who enjoy an impressive size. An upward curve is great for hitting the G-spot in vaginal play, and a straighter, smoother one works well for anal play. Don’t forget to stock up on lubricant! If you are using a silicone phallus with a condom it is important to only use a water-based one such as YES water based or SUTIL Luxe. SUTIL Rich is ideal for both vaginal and anal play because it is thicker and longer lasting. YES oil based lubricant is long lasting but not condom compatible.

Remember to keep your toys clean and hygienic – a wet wipe won’t do it!

Whether you enjoy sex with men, women or any other gender identity, the use of a phallus (or additional phallus) really extends your versatility as a sexual playmate.

Great exercise

If you aren’t used to being the one performing the thrusting motion during sex, you are in for a surprise! It’s incredibly hard work. You’ll work your waist, thighs and butt like never before, and it can be some pretty intense cardio! One speculates how much those curvy Instagram models might be using them. You’ll probably find it easiest to start off standing, with your partner raised up to receive. Once you’ve conditioned your muscles with a little practice, you can also try being on top, underneath or kneeling face to face, but the workout is amplified. Regularly changing positions will help you to keep going until you get yourself into strapon-fit form.

As you won’t be able to feel the entry, you may find it takes you a while to get the position right and notice when it slips out. Practice makes perfect. Most harnesses will hold the dildo against your mons pubis, so you can make it more physically arousing for yourself by incorporating a vibrating toy in the concealed pocket in the harness ring or inserting a vibrator into your own vagina or anus at the same time.

Constructing your strapon

You are going to need a well-fitting harness to attach your toy to. Fortunately, they are almost all adjustable to fit different sizes and builds, and many are made in such a way as to also leave your vagina, testicles or anus exposed for additional play options. The beautiful corsette harness brings a ladylike elegance to attach your chosen artificial penis to you, with security, accuracy and a divine femininity. You can construct your outfit to match it.

Additional fun reasons to have a strapon

Though strapons are, of course, mainly designed for penetrative sex, there are a number of other fun ways they can be used:

  • As a conversation starter piece at an adult party
  • For ice-breaker games, such as penis hoopla, with no risk of actual damage to the real goods
  • To help ‘adjust’ the gender ratio at parties if you have too many women
  • So everyone can join in the jovial fun of ‘penis jousting’ to have a laugh
  • To lend to someone else, if you find yourself short of suitable penises at an event, and want some penetration
  • To take beautiful photographs with
  • To lightly explore the elements of gender fluidity that most of us harbour within us
  • To cover the more cellulite-prone areas of our butts that racy lingerie tends to brutally expose
  • To upscale the excitement and novelty factor, either in private or at an adult event
  • To surprise a partner with and allow them to explore something new in a safe and private way

All in all, every self-respecting sexually empowered adult should own at least 1 strapon. It’s a basic part of the sex god or sex goddess kit, opens up worlds of new fun and can be used by pretty much anybody. Treat your harness well and it will last you years. Swap out the dildo whenever you wish, to suit your mood or the kind of play you want to try. No real penis ever had so much versatility!