Perspectives

Unpicking my Shame Around Masturbation
Unpicking my Shame Around Masturbation
MJ shares why she believes she carries shame around masturbation, how she's working to unpick it, as well as why she's bothering at all. Read more...
Why Everyone Loves Boobs
Why Everyone Loves Boobs
Alice Hunter explores the fascination so many people have with breasts, their depiction throughout history, why a third of women are disappointed with their breast size. Read more...
Being transgender is not a fad
Being transgender is not a fad
Jo Armstrong shares their experience as a transgender person and the importance of Transgender Day of Visibility. Read more...
Group Sex – Is it natural?
Group Sex – Is it natural?
Group Sex - Is it natural? Alice Hunter shares how it occurs in nature and has been depicted throughout history in artwork across the world and why, "Ultimately, group sex... Read more...
Sex and type 1 diabetes
Sex and type 1 diabetes
MJ writes about her experience of living with type 1 diabetes, the impact it has upon her relationships, enjoying sexual intimacy and pleasure and why talking about sex with your... Read more...
Winning back our sex life after prostate cancer - a personal story by Elvin Box
Winning back our sex life after prostate cancer - a personal story by Elvin Box
Elvin Box, a survivor of Prostate cancer and passionate campaigner shares his honest experience of the sexual impact cancer has had upon his physical, and mental wellbeing and his relationship... Read more...
Promiscuity vs Sexual Empowerment
Promiscuity vs Sexual Empowerment
Eleni writes about the difference between promiscuity and sexual freedom, sharing her views, that of others and her own personal experiences too. "Be aware, be conscious in your decisions, wake... Read more...
Consent Is Sexy
Consent Is Sexy
Eleni writes about the reasons why we struggle with consent within our sexual relationships yet "Sex is also most fun for everyone when everyone involved is consenting and — therefore... Read more...
A Day in The Life of a Sex Therapist
A Day in The Life of a Sex Therapist
Curious about what a sex therapist does? Julie Sale shares her fascinating and varied day as a sex therapist. Read more...
Ethical Nonmonogamy
Ethical Nonmonogamy
Eleni shares her personal experience on nonmonogamy after the slow realisation that monogamy wasn’t working particularly well. For some, monogamy works perfectly, for others exploring ethical nonmonogamy can be the... Read more...
Fantasies and Desires
Fantasies and Desires
Eleni takes us on a journey into her mind and opens up about her thoughts surrounding fantasies and desires, something many of us enjoy, either in our own heads or... Read more...
Introducing Eleni
Introducing Eleni
Meet Eleni who has been exploring kink and nonmonogamy since 2015. As a staunch feminist and a vegan who has type 1 diabetes; all of which impact her experiences in... Read more...
Breast Cancer and Confidence
Breast Cancer and Confidence
Darls shares her honest experience of breast cancer and regaining her confidence, including intimate details of her journey, some sad, some very funny. In sharing this she wants people to... Read more...
Love your Labia: How to get the perfect vagina that you and your sexual partners will adore
Love your Labia: How to get the perfect vagina that you and your sexual partners will adore
Alice Hunter explores the world of labia/vagina rejuvenation treaments and why we need to love our labia, no one needs to look like "Barbie". Read more...
Disability and Accessibility on the Swinging and Kink Scenes
Disability and Accessibility on the Swinging and Kink Scenes
We highlight the issue of accessibility of the kink and swinging scenes for people who have a disability, either visible or hidden. Read more...
My Fake Boyfriend
My Fake Boyfriend
Alice Hunter talks about the pros and cons of having a "fake boyfriend". Read more...
Alice Hunter Comes To Play With Jo Divine
Alice Hunter Comes To Play With Jo Divine
Meet Alice Hunter, a writer for the London alternative sexuality scene examining issues in swinging, kink, lgtbqia+ inclusion and much more. Read more...
Seducing Vegans
Seducing Vegans
Alice Hunter gives her expert advice about what we should know about vegan sex. From the art of seduction, nourishing your body with the right foods to boost your sexual... Read more...
Sexual Bereavement
Sexual Bereavement
When a partner dies, many people experience sexual bereavement, a grief associated with losing sexual intimacy. This is a grief no one talks about, that is not openly acknowldeged, socially... Read more...
Sex on Screen: Unrealistic depictions of sex in media
Sex on Screen: Unrealistic depictions of sex in media
Sex in films and on TV is often unrealistic, but as they can be easily accessed people assume that this is somehow the norm. Does media have a duty to... Read more...
How was that for you? By Fran Bushe
How was that for you? By Fran Bushe
Fran Bushe is an award winning comedian and playwright of hit show Ad Libido, about the highs and lows of her ongoing experience of trying to enjoy pleasurable sex. Read more...
Should We Educate Everyone About Gynaecological Health?
Should We Educate Everyone About Gynaecological Health?
Is there a need to educate everyone about gynaecological health issues as they can and do impact upon relationships and family life? Research by the Eve Appeal has shown that... Read more...
7 Ways To Attract A New Partner
7 Ways To Attract A New Partner
Finding a new partner can be a minefield whatever your age and sex so we have some tips to make it easier from using your eyes to attract that new... Read more...
5 Reasons Why Sex is Better the Older You Are
5 Reasons Why Sex is Better the Older You Are
5 reasons why sex is better, the older you are and why many older people enjoy great sexual intimacy and pleasure whatever their age through exploring new ways to enjoy... Read more...
Do Sex Toys Replace Men?
Do Sex Toys Replace Men?
Do Sex Toys Replace Men? Vibrator anxiety is real for some men, yet using sex toys enhances sex play, can make you a better sexual partner and close the orgasm... Read more...
Kegel Confusion: Kegel Balls Won't Make You Climax
Kegel Confusion: Kegel Balls Won't Make You Climax
Kegel Balls improve your sexual health and the strength of your orgasms, however they will not make you climax. Where does this confusion come from? Read more...
Why SRE Should Focus on Pleasure
Why SRE Should Focus on Pleasure
Eleanor Pearson, writer and founder of her blog Sexclusive, gives us her thoughts on why SRE should focus on pleasure. Read more...
The GP improving the sex lives of her patients
The GP improving the sex lives of her patients
Many people enjoy sex but struggle to get their GP to talk abut their problems. However there are many healthcare professionals who do talk about sex with their patients, including... Read more...
Recommending Sex Toys in the NHS
Recommending Sex Toys in the NHS
Our sex toys are being recommended by some amazing healthcare professionals who work in the NHS and who care about their patient's sex lives, offering help and advice beyond the... Read more...
Better sexual knowledge improves sexual health and pleasure
Better sexual knowledge improves sexual health and pleasure
Having better sexual knowledge can increase your sexual pleasure and boost your sexual health too which is why Jo Divine is educating people about their sexual health to improve their... Read more...
Is your sexual lubricant causing thrush?
Is your sexual lubricant causing thrush?
Many people do not realise that many commercially available sexual lubricants and even some available on prescription can cause thrush. Being a long term sufferer of vaginal infections Samantha gives... Read more...
Sex toys for men: Is it still a taboo?
Sex toys for men: Is it still a taboo?
Are male sex toys still seen as a taboo or have we come to accept them as the norm? Using male sex toys enhances sexual pleasure by offering different sexual... Read more...
Stop Telling Women It's Normal
Stop Telling Women It's Normal
Women are often told sexual health issues are "normal" or "all in their heads" - many are not! From painful sex to abnormal bleeding, women are often ignored when they... Read more...
Switching off my brain chatter helped me enjoy better sex
Switching off my brain chatter helped me enjoy better sex
Do you like sex but aren't enjoying it as much as you feel you should be? For me, the Light Bulb moment was turning off the chatter in my head... Read more...
Placebo or Pill? Can Either Boost Your Libido?
Placebo or Pill? Can Either Boost Your Libido?
Can a pill really boost your libido or is the “placebo effect” just as good? Popping a pill may seem like a quick fix but there are so many reasons... Read more...
The 5:2 diet boosted our sex life
The 5:2 diet boosted our sex life
Sticking to the 5:2 diet together for the last 4 years has not only helped us to lose weight and keep it off, it has boosted our sex life and... Read more...
Why Do Some Healthcare Professionals Medicalise Sex?
Why Do Some Healthcare Professionals Medicalise Sex?
Many people enjoy sexual intimacy and pleasure, yet when sexual function is affected by illness, disease injury or growing old, some healthcare professionals struggle to talk to their patients about... Read more...
Body Image Issues
Body Image Issues
The internalized perception of our bodies is our ‘body image’. It can be positive and negative, changing over time. Research has found that girls as young as five are self-critical... Read more...
Writing about sex has improved my sex life
Writing about sex has improved my sex life
How writing about sex has improved my sex life, opening my eyes to an amazing world of sexual experiences and sensations, leading to a more fun sex life! Read more...
Stop making sexual advice contradictory!
Stop making sexual advice contradictory!
It's time to stop making sexual advice contradictory and give people the information they need rather than confusing them. Read more...
Enjoying sex doesn’t empower you!
Enjoying sex doesn’t empower you!
Enjoying sex doesn't make you empowered so please stop using that word! Read more...
Why are designer vaginas so popular?
Why are designer vaginas so popular?
Why are women undergoing surgery to have a designer vagina? Jo Divine takes a look at the rise of this popular cosmetic surgery to find out why. Read more...
Why I'm having better sex in my 40s than in my 20s
Why I'm having better sex in my 40s than in my 20s
Age isn't a barrier to having sex! I'm having better sex in my 40's than I did in my 20's and so can you. Read more...
Sex In The Media vs Reality
Sex In The Media vs Reality
Sex portrayed in the media can often be very misleading as to what real sex should be like. A recent study has found that in reality, older people are having... Read more...
Stop faking those orgasms!
Stop faking those orgasms!
Stop missing out on amazing orgasms and follow these tips to achieve your perfect mind blowing orgasm! Read more...
Want Great Skin? Have Sex!
Want Great Skin? Have Sex!
According to a survey conducted by Elizabeth Arden in 2013, 21% of women would give up sex if it made them look younger... but in actual fact, having regular sex... Read more...
Penis Facts
Penis Facts
How well do you know your penis? Here are some interesting and helpful facts about your penis that you may not be aware of. Read more...
Annoying things about getting older as a woman
Annoying things about getting older as a woman
Some of the following things will have older women nodding in agreement and younger women preparing themselves for what is to come. Read more...
Have you ever had an embarrassing moment during sex?
Have you ever had an embarrassing moment during sex?
Most couples have experienced an embarrassing moment during sex or foreplay which they would quite happily forget. Here are a few that may sound familiar. Read more...
Sex In Nursing Homes
Sex In Nursing Homes
It is a commonly accepted, though completely misguided view that we all stop having or wanting sex once we get past 50. According to recent research, this could not be... Read more...